Curious to Try This out. Advice Please

[speedoboi]

Below is an ad I read on craigslist a while ago and I have been curious to reply because the content is about some of my fantasies involving speedos.. But, I'm hesitant because of safety and also, I'm not sexually attracted to brown skin or black skin males or females generally. I have friends of all races, but sexually speaking, I'm not attracted to brown/black skin. But the ad is so appealing. One friend of mine said he would be hesitant because I am a short guy, being only 5'7" and the guy is 6 feet tall.
Any advice?
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RUBBING OUR BULGES TOGETHER ==> PASSIONATE JO - 28 (Toronto)


age : 28 body : athletic height : 6'0" (182cm) status : single hiv hpv std : all neg

very passionate guy here, not out and very discreet looking for other relatively fit guys to do this with

looking to wear our hot gear and have bulge to bulge battles...our bodies lubed kissing and grinding
first to cum loses. For intense body contact am willing to get naked.

you can declare your prize if you win

6'0, 170lbs, relatively fit, masc brown discreet guy here
Chest pic up for exchange

into gear play that includes: singlet , speedo , bicycle gear , hockey gear , tights , spandex , lycra , thong , boxers , briefs
do NOT contact me with unsolicited services or offers

[ricardo871]

Sounds tempting dude but ask for his email first, then ask for pics or Skype BEFORE you give him your number. Confirm his pics first like ask him to send a pic right that second doing something specific like holding a yellow cup or banana. If he hesitates to send pics or the pics don't really match up, then he is not the real deal so sever contact immediately.
If he is the real deal and you want to meet then meet somewhere in public in broad daylight first, like a cafe where the crowd is quiet. In bars or clubs no one is paying attention to other people, but in a cafe you have the complete attention of the waiter/waitress so they'll at least remember some details about you and him. Then it's up to you how much you trust him I guess, I can only suggest ask heaps of questions about him (having lots in common with a person and chatting easily to them is great, but doesn't guarantee they're not a psycho, you have to go with your gut instinct). Coffee is the best first date because it is cheap and it can be over quickly if you don't like each other. If you go to dinner for your first meeting then it's more expensive and then you're sort of stuck with him for at least an hour.
I also strongly advise not drinking alcohol on your first meeting. If you decide to go to his place definitely take your own car and tell a mate you trust where you are going, the guy's address AND (this is important) his mobile number. A normal human being would understand that it's just common safety sense so if he protests against you telling his info to your mate this is a warning sign. Tell Mr Speedo also that you want to leave his house at 11pm and your friend is expecting a text from you by 11.05 with the all clear (make sure your mate knows this as well) or he will call the police to the location.
If you start to get kinky then remember you are free to leave at any time if things get uncomfortable or weird, and you don't owe him anything if you're not feeling it with him. Remember that common assault is constituted by ANY unwanted physical contact, you may withdraw your consent to sex at any time, he may not hold you against your will.
Verbal consent is a difficult thing to prove in court and this works in your favour, but because of this fact make sure you NEVER give him written consent to sex. Meaning say he messages you saying "Hey want to hook up?" make sure you msg back something that doesn't give direct consent, like "I can meet you later". If you type back "Sure I'd love some kinky freaky sex and I want you to do bad things to me" then bam, there's your consent in writing. Kinky sex be tricky because it's a comfort level thing, and in a court of law he can say you asked him to spank your ass red raw and jack you off with a cheese grater while you were handcuffed to the bed (on that note, don't ever use restraints of any form with a stranger) and he has your consent in the message, you said bad things right? (there are plenty of r@pe cases where a supposed victim wanted to try something that seemed like a good consensual idea at the time but felt humiliated or didn't like the way their butt felt afterwards etc so they screamed r@pe)

BUT this is all assuming he's a rapist. He might just be a hot guy with a speedo fetish so hell have a look and see what he's about, he might be your next boyfriend?

[speedoboi]

Sounds tempting dude but ask for his email first, then ask for pics or Skype BEFORE you give him your number. Confirm his pics first like ask him to send a pic right that second doing something specific like holding a yellow cup or banana. If he hesitates to send pics or the pics don't really match up, then he is not the real deal so sever contact immediately.
If he is the real deal and you want to meet then meet somewhere in public in broad daylight first, like a cafe where the crowd is quiet. In bars or clubs no one is paying attention to other people, but in a cafe you have the complete attention of the waiter/waitress so they'll at least remember some details about you and him. Then it's up to you how much you trust him I guess, I can only suggest ask heaps of questions about him (having lots in common with a person and chatting easily to them is great, but doesn't guarantee they're not a psycho, you have to go with your gut instinct). Coffee is the best first date because it is cheap and it can be over quickly if you don't like each other. If you go to dinner for your first meeting then it's more expensive and then you're sort of stuck with him for at least an hour.
I also strongly advise not drinking alcohol on your first meeting. If you decide to go to his place definitely take your own car and tell a mate you trust where you are going, the guy's address AND (this is important) his mobile number. A normal human being would understand that it's just common safety sense so if he protests against you telling his info to your mate this is a warning sign. Tell Mr Speedo also that you want to leave his house at 11pm and your friend is expecting a text from you by 11.05 with the all clear (make sure your mate knows this as well) or he will call the police to the location.
If you start to get kinky then remember you are free to leave at any time if things get uncomfortable or weird, and you don't owe him anything if you're not feeling it with him. Remember that common assault is constituted by ANY unwanted physical contact, you may withdraw your consent to sex at any time, he may not hold you against your will.
Verbal consent is a difficult thing to prove in court and this works in your favour, but because of this fact make sure you NEVER give him written consent to sex. Meaning say he messages you saying "Hey want to hook up?" make sure you msg back something that doesn't give direct consent, like "I can meet you later". If you type back "Sure I'd love some kinky freaky sex and I want you to do bad things to me" then bam, there's your consent in writing. Kinky sex be tricky because it's a comfort level thing, and in a court of law he can say you asked him to spank your ass red raw and jack you off with a cheese grater while you were handcuffed to the bed (on that note, don't ever use restraints of any form with a stranger) and he has your consent in the message, you said bad things right? (there are plenty of r@pe cases where a supposed victim wanted to try something that seemed like a good consensual idea at the time but felt humiliated or didn't like the way their butt felt afterwards etc so they screamed r@pe)

BUT this is all assuming he's a rapist. He might just be a hot guy with a speedo fetish so hell have a look and see what he's about, he might be your next boyfriend?

He only gave me his name and we started exchanging emails back and forth. He asked if I was ok with kissing and I said yes. But everytime I insisted for certain specifics he simply said, I hope you find the right for you. So fortunately/unfortunately, nothing happened. But i really want something like this to happen.

[budgybloke]

Hey Ricardo - got to say, that's really sound, thoughtful advice for anyone. Good on you for looking out for one of your speedo forum buddies. You're a great bloke!!

Speedoboi - all the best finding someone who's safe, to try out this fantasy with. Grinding in speedos is awesome.

[leglake]

Ricardo, thanks for the tip. I'm going to meet a cute cub pretty soon, and will definitely use your advice for this. Cheers!